Joanne's Dorm: February 2006

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Ms Jo

Okay, so you've seen the blog title and are wondering around who or what Jo really is so I'll try to explain that to you.
Jo is the account holder of both blogs and on this blog I give expression to the voice of a troubled teen left alone dealing with her past which is in her present, her needs not met by ignorance, misguided professional advice, and borderline emotional neglect.
She has complex emotional needs being insecure in herself, her abilities, the intentions and meanings of others, she has limited understanding through medical conditions of how the world revolving around her operates and how she is to interact with it.
Rather than teaching her by example these things, she is left to fend for herself where more often than not the world assumes she knows, so she messes up, they tut tut and she retreats inward again into the next forced interaction in a cycle that so unsatisfying.
She doesn't know it's ways at least in part because the were not explained to her, nobody give her a consequence that children had for it and the reassuring love that it was all over she could start all over again.
She just felt the world had no use for her becoming more and more angry, taking it out anyone weaker than herself. She had an inner brat that she was using aided by a pack of cards and was set for a troubled life.
You see the only thing that really met her needs was this but it rare she got anything like it for a host of reasons like she was disabled so they didn't want to make her sad, they thought she was frail, her family was troubled so it wasn't her fault and anyway wasn't asking her kindly to stop it the proper way for such a sensitive young thing?

The trouble was she never paid much attention to that as her ability to work out by reasoning what it wasn't good, her attention span poor and by the time it was really sugar coated for good measure it was useless.

This is the scene I'd of sooner had to face up to at school.

Not some stupid round robin conference of experts and half soaked parents spending weeks or more at it with this weeks pet psychological theory plus it would be less expensive!
Half the time I felt they just wanted to explain away what was just old fashioned lack of discipline and teaching of social norms as in truth most of the time I just didn't feel like working to the best of my ability or doing what I was told nothing more than any other child and I should of been treated the same as them.

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Introduction Part 1

Here we go, live on this blog for the first time ever talking about some things people keep underwraps, some have a big objection to in principal and something some of us feel we still need.
Spanking.
Having got the painful part out of the way, let me begin by saying I disagree entirely with abusing children and all punishment should be structured, arise from actual misbehaviour and proportionate, distinguishing between accidents and that you know will happen and are expected to take responsible for.
While it is the fashion to go one about the rights of the child, the child itself is evolving, is lacking a clear sense of right and wrong relying on others to instruct it and the child has the need expressed in the responsibility of adults chiefly parents, to punish all transgressions to cause them to desist from repeating them.
Different techniques do work for different children and so ruling out spanking is to take out a method some children find preferable to dragged out groundings, endless meetings of professionals and so on.
The sigh of "I want it over with now" can be heard and for me it's always been so and indeed the dragging out by well meaning experts cause me more damage to my self esteem than any number of quickly administered spankings ever did. I'd much sooner of had an "expert spanking" on many of an occasion and what is more It would of stopped more quicker than anything.