Why does this blog exist

It's sometimes a good idea to think about why it should be I actually have this blog when as you know I have accounts elsewhere like SN and SW as well as Tumblr although I do wonder why I bother at SW to be honest.

Part of the reason is Tumblr has an agenda that it pushes on users like putting posts in your stream it things you ought to read rather than anything that you yourself wish to that have a very pro PC bais.

If that were not enough it places restrictions on content  which were increased last year when anything deemed 'adult content' was formally banned

Adult Content as defined by Tumblr doesn't include age regression but it appears it is taking a hit where even outside of any relationship communities are being caught out by a system that appears to be ignorant of what it is banning.

Tumblr do regard  anything around Caregiver/littles as potentially adult and anything connected with spanking and other forms of discipline

lf only that were so things may not be so bad but there's other stuff going around connected to the use of Artificial Intelligence to save Tumblrs owners Automattic Inc money in moderating mainly with humans.

Thus because of those changes chunks of what I do like to talk about don't fit anymore at that site  so one function is to let me  let steam off around topics that they won't accept and talk about those bits of my life I no longer can there.

That said I'm mixing some more mainstream littles content in on here to partially cos it may be of interest to you and partially because it's where the reminder slots into neatly.

If I lost that account, this blog would still be here too 

 The thing is girls like me need caning to help us regulate our behaviour and get it so having a place where I it can be mentioned and discussed is a must.

Dealing with those times we've messed up

In what has been a cool week I have been think a little about  how we deal with those times we are not being our best and have caused some offence or other.
It would be easy - and I've done it - to just ignore it as if really it didn't matter in the slightest and anyway don't we all make mistakes?
The thing is, it's less about us and rather more about the impact of our actions on others plus in time even that catches up with us when we are not able to get what we normally would of expected because of what we have done.
It's better to try to deal with it instead.

 

It's better to begin by acknowledging the need to express our regret over the behaviour or attitudes we showed and clearly show we accept responsibility alone for the wrong we did.

As good as those two things are they are insufficient because we have hurt others and so we need to it right - restitution - consider what we could do and do it.

People may want to say "It's okay" but actually telling us that isn't helpful because it WAS NOT okay     so they should enable us to make that step perhaps saying "Yes I'd like you to do that".

After doing that we need to tell them we will try not to do that again and ask for their forgiveness.

 It is a sad fact many of us struggle with this and others don't seem willing to help us through it.

Until next week, bye.

The Ghouling years

Last weekend I was away at our littles Ghoulish party to which the full account of can be found Here as those things are published on the littles blog.
It's interesting to reflect on how it has been in the last three and a bit decades the way we mark this time of the year has changed because over here in the UK Halloween as such wasn't marked but people did hold All Hallows Day parties with guising and toffee apples.
The more recent custom of Trick and Treat isn't native to the UK but an import from the States a good number hold the children's tv program  Blue Peter responsible for doing a feature on in the early eighties that then spread like topsy.
Into that the participates created outfits to which people rewarded with candy and it wasn't long before as in the States commercial outfits became widely available even if face paint and the like obviously was hand applied.
In this country it cuts into the Guy Fawkes season where we mark the foiled attempt to blow up the Houses of Parliament with effigies, bonfires and fireworks in 1605.
For that ear muffs may help as some fireworks are really loud!
One thing that has changed in recent years is I am more focused on my behaviour at least as far as it may impact on others from knowing when not to get into conversations that are not really to do with me, taking turns well and being safe such as with using sharp knives for pumpkin carving because the increased use of physical and non physical chastisement  that can be used discretely such as a smack out of sight help me to keep those traits in check more which makes being out with people more enjoyable. 
For me then, this weekend was  a great one.

Spanking in adulthood

There are times when I think much of the appeal of spanking in later life for those of us to whom it isn't erotic comes from that mindset because contrary to what might think and say, we associate the act of being spanked with being cared for even as we fail to see why our attitudes and behaviours as legal adults is leading us and the long term implications from carrying on down that path.
To have a "reminder" spanking however brief is to bring back into our subconscious the very likelihood of it  and certainly I get a warm glow on the inside from that very feeling.
It's a blessed relief.