Feeding the famished affections

Bits that matter have at times been ignored in this blog because other bigger topics have predominated at times and one is the importance of the relationship between any adult with responsibilities and me as the the adult child.

It isn't enough to say "I'm the adult here" you need to explain carefully about what has concerned you about me and my life whither or not it is because I have been unwell and we all know I was earlier this year for instance  or it is because you needed to chastise me because of things I said or did that impacted on other people or even just me.

It matters that you reveal your love and care for and about me so I cannot mistake that concern for just you just wanting the upper hand with me, that there really is a serious point to all of this.

It is about words, it is about deeds but above all it is about feelings, feelings you can share and make sure I really get by your cuddles, hugs and other aspects of the physical expression of your love and affection.

Given some of the terrible things that have happened in my life, this really matters.

Lending support

 

I've never really been much of a one for cheerleading anyone or anything really as if they or it were the total answer to what might of been needed probably because I'm more accustomed to very much nuanced thought processes.

Things tend to have pluses and minus's in my world be they ideas or the people who bring them in and so alternatives are seldom without merit so things may be more finally balanced for me than perhaps others.

Sometimes people think you're not loyal, totally behind things but for the difference between success and failure lies in having a sense of proportion and the preparedness to seek advice before committing oneself to a course of action and to use it.

It can also mean that when things are just not turning out right, having the humility to accept that and change course before being overtaken by events.

Online welfare

 

Today's message is simple.

Try to spend less time staring at that thing as if your live depended upon it.

Keep tabs on what sort of content comes in your your stream: does it it make you anxious, depressed or feel like self harming?

Is it keeping you up at night?

Try to find people who you can trust to talk about what you've seen if it's troubling you.

If a site is a worry because of things like child pr0n, inappropriate content or otherwise harmful report it.

That's all folks!

The topsy turvey week

 

It's a New Month although I not sure about celebrating the fact with all this chaos and worry about like my mate Money going down the pan last week when someone appeared to get their sums badly wrong.

I mean if I said I'd let some one pay less but borrow the money cover it without showing how I'd repay you do you think they'd just let me do that.

Sometimes you need to borrow money because letting things just contract could cost us more in the longer term but you do need to transparent about it because ultimately it comes from other people.

That thankfully seems to have stopped after last weeks mayhem but it does make me wonder just what of  guidance they get.

I'm just glad my money has some value now.