Tuesday, September 29, 2009

The science of spanking

Given the generally negative press from people who feel they're the experts on anything to do with bringing up children or teaching people including adults even right from wrong so they conduct themselves appropriately this entry belongs.
Some people have a major objection but when you take into account all the other ways of trying to with this kind of behaviour that similar people have objections also, all you are left with is distraction techniques that fail to teach you the exact behaviour you are required to have and you can't expect society to be in permanent state of negotiated boundaries with each individual.
We do have fixed expectations and standard of behaviour that you are expected automatically to conform to and being properly socialized either in childhood or later means you must learn to just meet them. We may have rights but we also have responsibilities and obligations too
Of course we should explain why it is we need to certain things, that they are the accepted way and why it matters to conform but consequences need to be delivered to help you  stop those actions.
Spanking is a perfectly good way of disciplining a developmentally disabled adult like me who doesn't learn well from words or reads 'between the lines' because it helps form connections in us between what we did and how people see it so we change when backed by guidance.
Postscript: It has been done and is working very well transforming my attitudes and behaviour.

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