Is there a place for the Adult Age Regressor

Sometimes  back to places at the bequest of a friend can bring some matters back into focus such as the differences between terminology between Age Regression and Age Play cos in some respects we tend not to fit in so well with Age Play groups not that I'm saying anything against individuals at all but sometimes long for places free from those eighteen or under from the drama and need to be super careful about not messaging them least anyone make out you were doing things you shouldn't (even if like me you just wouldn't) and teen spats.

For us being Little means being child-like in the mindset of a child even if legally we're adults acting upon those feelings and emotions as if we were that child again all (emotional) age appropriate.

The thing we find is Age play communities tend to go with kink such as BDSM and they seem to see a Little as a Submissive in a power dynamic to a Dominant  whole very much rules the roost often involving submissive gains with props, some of which do inflict pain and frequently a sexual side that is controlling.

Of course it need not be all like that, everyone is an individual, but the online version in particular seems to lack any protective,nurturing sides with empathy more a power trip mutually agreed to.

For us while there are Caregivers, those people are about providing the stability, guidance and love that perhaps we didn't get when we were younger or because of trauma or abuse we find loving ourselves and trusting others so much more the harder even if some situations they may chastise us (by consent).

Age Play communities often don't really want us around and trying to find places that do like over 18 age regressors who may prefer time with legal adults and who may have meetings and the like going on seems so hard at times.

Check your privilege

One modern trend is the "Culture wars" that are played out on social media, on campuses, in the courts with the battle cry "Check your privilege" as  its supports hold being in whole social groups gives you unearned and unwarranted advantages that effectively hold others back.
At least that's how they see it.

The retort to the proposition that criticism of one Meghan Markle is racially motivated suggesting it had more to do with how her actions are seen as met on BBC Tv's question time with the person being told they were not fit to comment as a white male and to "check their privilege" by a minority rights lecturer.

Their proposition runs black people only know how in lots of ways they are discriminated against and put down verbally and so any time a criticism is  made by a mainly white source such as the Mass Media, then it is. The end.

The Mass Media here have things to answer for, obsessive interests, playing people off  and yes sometimes racially motivated (or at least culturally insensitive) commentary but in this instance many in Britain's BME community do agree with that man.

A bigger argument can be made  that the process of comparing and contrasting similar people by gender and role (the obvious example being Catherine and Meghan) that it's less about race so much it is about what the roles of "Royal" women should be that editors are trying to shape.
Less racism, more misogyny if you like.

More to the point, can a blanket assumption of white privilege be upheld as if just being white puts you further forward on the starting block ignoring poverty, education (the lowest levels of attainment are white working class males). chronic disabilities and even the extent to which you applied your abilities studying or training?

If a black women in her twenties and a white male of the same age both win a 200 metre race can we say he's had every advantage and didn't earn his win? What if she'd of come from a well off background background and he hadn't possibly having health issues in his early childhood? 

Because I'm white does that mean I'm privileged beyond that anyone who is black even with many many long term health issues and disabilities? Things that have resulted in discrimination, verbal and physical abuse even?
Do you even 'get' me and my needs?

I suspect as a tool for saying we ought to be sensitive to others needs  and think before we make wide statements this term really is inadequate for the complexity of what constitutes advantage  and the extent to which any group of people use it.
It also has the ability to promote discrimination itself.

More on my Tumblr

This week I'm talking about a change I made on the Tumblr I wrote about last week but before I get on to that, the situation was actually a bit worse potentially than I had thought.

You see, I just thought I'd been blocked and was facing a community banning where someone posts your account internet address, specifies your rule breaking and suggests people should ban you but that thank goodness did not happen as I said there was much wrong with that persons rational.

No what happened instead was they tried to have me listed as "Adult Content" for the alleged DD/lg posts which weren't in any way about that and had reported me to Tumblr management and somewhere in the emotional disturbance, I must of clicked a request a review.

Now Tumblr have said there is no Adult Content as they define it and have fully restored as sfw my account.

So to recap Tumblr who I have many issues with are saying there is nothing adult or inappropriate with my blog and they are its hosts even if this misinformed minor thought otherwise.

And that person has restored their own account!!!

With that out of the way, I'll talk a little about what I have done with that tumblr over the last few days. 

My Tumblr goes back a long time March 2013 to be exact being old in Tumblr terms  so as part of the moves ready for marking it's seventh anniversary in just over seven weeks times time it's been given a bit of a make over.

The last time it had one was just before Christmas 2016 after some business with one age regression community caused issues that it has taken years to work through so it was probably time.

One step was to remove a few posts from the early days where the people who I had reblogged something from had tagged them to things that aren't minor friendly (and much of modern age regression on Tumblr wasn't a thing then).

 I changed the avatar over to an illustration that captures the kind of girl I am, cleaning the image up too.

I changed its name to something that is more about being a younger adult little and potentially further  away from being seen as a  Cg/l  Tumblr even if I'm not given unlike a fair few others I never remade my blog entirely when I moved to Age Regression communities.

 I also decided to change the header to something more Junior reflecting my love for Paddington Bear from reading the books and watching the BBC tv cartoon series as an actual junior with this still of Paddington at breakfast with Judy sat eating hers in her school uniform.
She was of course a boarding school girl that has a nod to a more anime and fashion tumblr I have...

The previous one was more younger and whimsyish which I felt I had outgrown to be honest.

The curious case of the Tumblr DNI message

Tumblr has its plus's and minus's which after just under seven years I am well used to but at the weekend I received a communication which was a bit off which basically implied I'd broken someones interaction limits and asked me to both discontinue following them and remove any reblogged posts.

It was odd as when I went to click on it, I found they had deactivated that account, yes like they 'cared' to communicate an action but then made it impossible to act because by deactivating they had ceased automatically to be followed as you cannot follow something that doesn't exist.

Anyway looking into it actual content was not an issue, two posts one of a series of wedding dress pictures from an agency and the other a  simple block print of children upright in playing poses totally safe for work and child safe.

Their objection was  the original poster had put CG/l tags on it which didn't show up when I reblogged them four years ago which one as deactivated so they couldn't have interaction against their wishes as they were no longer there and the other had been inactive for three years so clearly had moved on.

Now if they'd of asked me to remove them, I'd of  done that  I removed a lot in the Fall of 2016 but these two didn't either because the posts didn't show up or in the many overlaid changes in Tumblrs blogging tools something had been broken.

Point is an understandable objection to certain tags regardless of actual content is one thing but in reality they faced no threat and the terse note was more more triggering for me given some the stuff that happened in my life and a simple request would of been respected.

The funny thing is three weeks ago the Kidhearts agreed to interaction and all they expect members to do these days if you do blog from a source that isn't is to remove it after a polite request and they were the strictest on these things than any group in Age Regression.

Then as they have got themselves sorted, on the other side of age regression we have individuals pursuing crusades in a illogical and intimidatary fashion.

Seeing it's only two months and 190 posts off of 10,000 posts I decided to rebrand it  totally from Url, avatar. and header as the last one was from late December 2016 and the hot water i was in then with a certain group.

I am not prepared to have some individual on an ill-considered  whim attack me and my integrity on a white knight crusade for brownie points.

2019 in Joanne's Dorm

I usually write year reviews on blogs around this time and I have already done the one for my main adult little girl one  already which I don't feel that much of a need to boilerplate over using a printing term to this blog.

This blog as you may of noticed has had something of a make over and one area has been writing about my times away and as this blog was always originally about my emotions, what I felt about it, how I coped because I'd be lying if I didn't say I find situations  at times trying especially anything new.

This year I built in what I had been doing the previous year being more physically active, exercising my abilities to focus on things and recall which is something I struggle with because if I don't then quite simply I lose out by not being able to enjoy things.
The fact it is out of doors is a bonus for taking in fresh air, maintaining muscle strength which I'm lacking in and cultivating some hardiness in me.

I also talked  a little about age regression on here because it  it is the main aspect of my life, what it is, how you may present as an age regressor, how being younger than your years leads to a need for oversight and for want of a better term, parental input and structures some of which do include spanking which I have spoke of although it's not a 'spanking blog'  with honesty.

I also talked about things like having a full on disability assessment that has made a big difference to my personal situation as my full set of needs has been recognized which has been a burning point ever since in my mid teens the differences between me and my peers become increasingly obvious. Age Regression is a coping mechanism that places me in the appropriate setting to have independence with support.

I also talked a a bit about my personal beliefs and values too.

The other big thing was I had discovered my no longer operable original Fur Affinity account actually was - one can only assume the database got repaired at some point after I'd made a fresh account up so I decided to use that fur just  venting around things that may go down so well on the main account and certainly there as nothing to gained from moving accounts again as you can't transfer your journals and that over easily and talking around spanking.

That I think were the themes that were looked at on this blog in 2019 and it maybe some might be revisited although Tumblr's antics remains constant for now and I'm not having issues with what I posted even though there are somethings I would like to.