Christmas Edition

People do possess sometimes the most amazing ability to figure they can fool people into giving them things they truly don't deserve like this Young Lady from the nineteenth century who feels she can fool Santa Clause into delivering every single present she is sat there listing even if she's been the naughtiest ever schoolgirl all year.

Somehow I suspect it may coal and a sore behind she'll be having this Christmas for the sheer cheek of it!

This blog as it is Christmas and I've lots of things to do  will be on pause  mode until around New Years day so it remains for me to wish you all a very happy Christmas  and a Happy New Year

War is over!

There are differences between in so-called 'real life' and online life when it comes to communities around certain topics and lifestyles where sometimes different takes and different understandings of terms do apply that have lead to complications.
The world of Age Regression is one where this is very common place although in a matter of  a few days this have started to change with less polarized views being more accepted and more peacefully co-existence pursued.
Although there were few websites that covered sometimes from a submissive angle this, most of the activity was sites such as Tumblr and much of the activities connected with regression such as colouring, more child-like play and the like tended to talked of in more Caregiver/little or DD/lg groups because they were the only groups that did accept it at that time although there was much around the separate and kink connected Age Play scene.
What lead to the creation of specifically Age Regression communities was the increase in youngsters typically 14 through 18 who were following Caregiver/little Tumblrs for the age regression content and the issues between contact with kink and minors.
The spate between communities was more that some of us split from Cg/l but used some terms such as littlespace and littles  while others fearing this may put minors at risk of inappropriate contact made their own who then started saying those that didn't condoned kink and in effect kept a rigid division up even though what was posted  and what we all did was essentially the same.
Unfortunately this did spill over into name calling and the like being on a bad day worse than many a school playground.
Different groups had different name that sometimes on one side split again  as one wanted to more 'purist' than the other.
Much of this after a period where the more purist side lost ground as increasingly more questioned the refusal to allow reblogging of minor friendly non sexual entirely sfw age regression content from the other while more specialized activity groups for say stimming or play changed allegiances.
Last week after a vote, the larger current group who had gone their way, the Kidhearts decided to allow their members to reblog, message and join groups by the remainder of us so long as we respect the individual members feels about such interaction which people usually have on a separate page on their tumblr.
That is so much more how we'd deal with differences within the world of Adult Littles face to face and I am glad we have a workable system within the online communities now  to allow each other to work together while respecting differences.

Headspace in littleworld

This week while nursing a bad foot I've been thinking a bit more about Headspace.

What is Headspace?

Headspace to me means the vantage point my mind looks upon everything around of it and relates to it in real time, being a felt, experienced and physical thing I interact with that ties in your sense of you in time and space.

People can have differing senses of head space not least of you're a Middle or Little because you may have, depending on your own development a more adult sense of what you do and how you'd see your role as well as a younger one where in effect you go back to those things and ways of looking at life that you may recall from your childhood.

The way people may move from one to another depends on the individual and their circumstances such as you may have a triggering thing such as a particularly activity that from the second you start to interact with it, you subconsciously move to that side of you.

For example I used to find being in schools often brought out the more Junior side of me so much so if I was left their for long enough on my own I'd 'drop' into being that child or playing with say dolls just does.

It may be also that how you are attired does and with me putting on my school clothes like what I'm wearing right now typing this 'throws the switch'.

I think one thing a good number of us find useful is where we can meet up because it enables us to interactive not just with our own person sense of being a Middle or Little in such a headspace but also with others as if we were over at other folks houses playing which I think is something many of us did as children and it's that kind of feeling we're recreating.

When looking at recreating there is a question to be asked about the extent to which it is or can be complete replication simply because the nature being a child and the 'play' has itself changed over the decades.

The modern child has electronic play devices and quite often access to say a Tablet Computer which may be used to play games on or join sites like Club Penguin or use to write or draw things on. A computer may be part of your Little/Middle headspace.

How much of that we may do when we're together is something that we'll need to work through in the same way thoughtful parents do with their own children and for similar reasons because it is easy-too easy perhaps-to have a situation where we're all huddled together but staring into our own screens so while individually we're having fun the one thing we aren't doing is interacting with each other. That is a genuine concern.

The other area with that and the all pervasive Smartphone is handling Adult related things such as any requirements an individual may have to check emails and the like from 'work' which whatever your personal thoughts on the rights and wrongs of  (and I think it has for some gotten too intrusive in folks free time) such things are part of their working conditions they are expected to comply with when outside work such as at such meets.

I feel it needs to be done in way that doesn't disturb the Middle/Little space of other people attending which may involve say the use of your own private space or a designated area and certainly the associated electrical accessories like chargers need to out of peoples way when sitting or walking about.

For some of us, though this isn't necessarily the biggest threat to that very headspace at all and while I won't speak for everybody one reason I do like being in that Middle/Little space is to be free from adult level intrusions not least those I have functional difficulties with.

When we were younger the Grown Ups, knew it mattered that while the Big World went on around us, it was wrong for that to dominate Our World so some conversations and topics were 'not for young ones ears' because playing talking through our thoughts and ideas mattered more for us.

That's why it does matter to some of us the sense of leaving things like political, religious and 'adult matters' out of where we are playing, talking or even sleeping and it may be sensible to check with any Little or Middle if they wish to be involved in or ideally leave that to as something in another room people may do.

Personally I have no inclination at all to engage in discussion around those areas simply because it's not part of Middle me that comes to meets apart from experiences in other groups that had allowed it lead to enmities between folk whose reason for being together had had nothing to do with these topics.

To me then to the extent one cannot and would not want to restrict what people can talk about not least that of any groan ups/Caregivers present, there's something to be said for holding back it until after little bed time  or perhaps of having that in just one area of a meet you'd make a deliberate point  of entering.
That way it's managed but those of us who are either playing or just resting have our needs respected so we can enjoy ourselves in our younger headspace freely.
For me  part of that freedom comes from the knowledge that groan ups will step in and discipline me if I am getting out of or at risk of injuring myself so I just act on the me within and not be so concerned about what if it goes all pear shaped that I just sit there terrified to do anything cos I don't feel able to put it right.
To conclude being in it to me is the mark of being a middle or little. It is us.

Why does this blog exist

It's sometimes a good idea to think about why it should be I actually have this blog when as you know I have accounts elsewhere like SN and SW as well as Tumblr although I do wonder why I bother at SW to be honest.

Part of the reason is Tumblr has an agenda that it pushes on users like putting posts in your stream it things you ought to read rather than anything that you yourself wish to that have a very pro PC bais.

If that were not enough it places restrictions on content  which were increased last year when anything deemed 'adult content' was formally banned

Adult Content as defined by Tumblr doesn't include age regression but it appears it is taking a hit where even outside of any relationship communities are being caught out by a system that appears to be ignorant of what it is banning.

Tumblr do regard  anything around Caregiver/littles as potentially adult and anything connected with spanking and other forms of discipline

lf only that were so things may not be so bad but there's other stuff going around connected to the use of Artificial Intelligence to save Tumblrs owners Automattic Inc money in moderating mainly with humans.

Thus because of those changes chunks of what I do like to talk about don't fit anymore at that site  so one function is to let me  let steam off around topics that they won't accept and talk about those bits of my life I no longer can there.

That said I'm mixing some more mainstream littles content in on here to partially cos it may be of interest to you and partially because it's where the reminder slots into neatly.

If I lost that account, this blog would still be here too 

 The thing is girls like me need caning to help us regulate our behaviour and get it so having a place where I it can be mentioned and discussed is a must.

Dealing with those times we've messed up

In what has been a cool week I have been think a little about  how we deal with those times we are not being our best and have caused some offence or other.
It would be easy - and I've done it - to just ignore it as if really it didn't matter in the slightest and anyway don't we all make mistakes?
The thing is, it's less about us and rather more about the impact of our actions on others plus in time even that catches up with us when we are not able to get what we normally would of expected because of what we have done.
It's better to try to deal with it instead.

 

It's better to begin by acknowledging the need to express our regret over the behaviour or attitudes we showed and clearly show we accept responsibility alone for the wrong we did.

As good as those two things are they are insufficient because we have hurt others and so we need to it right - restitution - consider what we could do and do it.

People may want to say "It's okay" but actually telling us that isn't helpful because it WAS NOT okay     so they should enable us to make that step perhaps saying "Yes I'd like you to do that".

After doing that we need to tell them we will try not to do that again and ask for their forgiveness.

 It is a sad fact many of us struggle with this and others don't seem willing to help us through it.

Until next week, bye.

The Ghouling years

Last weekend I was away at our littles Ghoulish party to which the full account of can be found Here as those things are published on the littles blog.
It's interesting to reflect on how it has been in the last three and a bit decades the way we mark this time of the year has changed because over here in the UK Halloween as such wasn't marked but people did hold All Hallows Day parties with guising and toffee apples.
The more recent custom of Trick and Treat isn't native to the UK but an import from the States a good number hold the children's tv program  Blue Peter responsible for doing a feature on in the early eighties that then spread like topsy.
Into that the participates created outfits to which people rewarded with candy and it wasn't long before as in the States commercial outfits became widely available even if face paint and the like obviously was hand applied.
In this country it cuts into the Guy Fawkes season where we mark the foiled attempt to blow up the Houses of Parliament with effigies, bonfires and fireworks in 1605.
For that ear muffs may help as some fireworks are really loud!
One thing that has changed in recent years is I am more focused on my behaviour at least as far as it may impact on others from knowing when not to get into conversations that are not really to do with me, taking turns well and being safe such as with using sharp knives for pumpkin carving because the increased use of physical and non physical chastisement  that can be used discretely such as a smack out of sight help me to keep those traits in check more which makes being out with people more enjoyable. 
For me then, this weekend was  a great one.

Spanking in adulthood

There are times when I think much of the appeal of spanking in later life for those of us to whom it isn't erotic comes from that mindset because contrary to what might think and say, we associate the act of being spanked with being cared for even as we fail to see why our attitudes and behaviours as legal adults is leading us and the long term implications from carrying on down that path.
To have a "reminder" spanking however brief is to bring back into our subconscious the very likelihood of it  and certainly I get a warm glow on the inside from that very feeling.
It's a blessed relief.