Mommy time

For me there is nothing so much as a Mommies love not least in the small things she does for you such as plaiting and putting your hair in bunches or in a pony tail, brushing it all the way down like the magical mane of who is her Princess you are.
Being involved matters so much to you as you wanna be Mommies little girl cos she was one once too!

Get set and matched!

One of things the person who is working with me is trying to do is to work on feeling confident  and part of this is about removing barriers between how much of me I allow others to see so I'm  having my hem lines taken up and long socks or tights removed.
She's trying me in a pleated tennis skirt with a suitable top and casual footwear.
A bit of this ties into the regressed schoolgirl playing sports in a competition context which does have it's appeal.

Comics

When I was younger I grew up reading comics which are usually combinations of short stories written for children in a series of frames with the drawing, speech bubbles for the characters and a little bit of plain text to set the scene of the frame.
The stories are usually centred on universal aspects of childhood, such as parents, authority figures, school, war or adventure stories with heroes and having fun with other kids.
Some comics are written to appeal mostly to one gender but most I read were for both such as the Dandy and the Beano pictured.
In many ways the Beano had it all as far as I was concerned with the adventures of Dennis the Menace,  the lovable roguish boy fighting dad, every authority figure there was, Walter (the goody-goody boy) with every trick in the book. That said in earlier editions he'd get his comeuppance once in a while when Granny would arrive on the scene and spank him with the 'Demon whacker', a notoriously hard leather slipper!
My favourite though was Minnie The Minx. She was a bit like Dennis but with a Tan and obviously a skirt on compared to Dennis flannel shorts but more cunning with a tomboy aspect to her personality always scheming to get her own way . She'd have me in stitches every week!!!
My other favourite as The Bash Street Kids set in a old run down inner city primary school with loads of wacky characters engaged in a constant battle with 'Teach' who carried a cane with him who himself was under pressure from the Headmaster. In older episodes he's cane the kids from time to time for their misdemeanours in class or on trips.
I still love reading them and buy the annuals.

Play and the Middle

 

There are many aspects around being an adult kid, which if you're like many of us it's taken time to come to an acceptance of and while many have been talked about here, there is one I'd like to introduce to you, play.

Play is something we associate very much with our childhood, something that regardless of our gender or disabilities we all have in common that outside of school was the means we socialized at home or the playgrounds in our communities.

If you've struggled since with these things they also can be of use to you to relearn those skills that can crossover into your more adult roles.

Playing is how we learned about each other, learned new skills from each other be it building a model, skipping or just how to be a friend, looking out for others.

We felt good going out in the snow building snowmen or tossing snowballs at each other and I still do actually!

So whenever I've been with my adult kid friends one of things we program into our meet up are various play opportunities starting with an ice breaker and one of our favourites is working on a jigsaw together which gives an opportunity to not to just solve the puzzle which is fun but to start working together, establishing a good co-operative feel from the get go.

Play can be both individual as well as group centred like for instance you may enjoy making Lego's small kits say of a Helicopter up from the supplied parts, which can help with develop your hand to eye co-ordination and ability to concentrate too.

Within play you can create stories using your own imagination either by actually role playing (Dungeons and Dragons or playing 'School' anyone?) or making up adventures for your Teddies dolls which I find pretty good at getting rid of 'adult' stress.

Finding anew that sense of imagination is magical.

Another one you can do by yourself or as a group is...wait for it...colouring, something that's on the up at least in the UK with some more older age group colouring books being published but if, like me you love Disney, bliss can equal going to the local store and getting yourself one (my new one is Frozen) and a pack of pencils (or crayons).

I find it very relaxing.

We often bring traditional board games such as Mousetrap with us dividing people into teams as we throw the dice over the course of a few hours and dice have this habit of not quite going the way you want so may have to wait until you get the right number.

Space permitting you could put together small train set powered or even the chunky push along sort pretending you're along the Canadian Pacific climbing the inclines and going over bridges, train whistles optional!

Or maybe you like playing with toy cars creating an adventure as you go long as they all come from the same place inside you, your 'little' side, and just letting it out in a setting that's comfortable I find removes layers of emotional constipation so you feel more at ease with yourself.

Although I don't for personal disability based reasons, there's no reason not to rig up an Xbox or PS4 and have several of you just sat around playing while your daddies or mentors are either having more groan up fun or just discussing things between themselves, looking out as most of our dads did in case we started to get into trouble.

Your playing then can actually be pretty good for them too, giving them a break while their littles are all together doing their own thing.

Naturally play can take place out of doors too with a bit of planning and consideration for those not in the lifestyle, where you could go to a park and fly kites, have a kick about playing soccer or maybe baseball while sharing food together.

Wasn't that the kind of fun you just loved? Well if so, let's just get on with recreating it cos there's no reason to do without it.

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I love to be dressed up like this.
In soft   flowing  skirts with frilly slips and pretty socks.

Onesies?

Let's get one thing straight. Although some of things I talk about are classed as 'adult' in truth they are more from my own childhood, the values I was brought up and so are a continuation and in parts a plea to a return to child-like norms and being treated they way we were rather than anything that routed in bdsm or so-called 'adult services' although I'd be the first to say children are best being children and only should explore more of this, should they feel a need to after becoming adults able to understand and consent to some of ideas.

 One thing I think would be good for me is as far as is practical to make as much of everyday clothes I have as reflective of my state of being a child so 'sensible' adult nightdresses would be best replaced say by either childrens motif ones or say a one piece all in one 'onesie' to help uplift more of that headspace.
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Disability Ettiquette and me.

I've never made a post quite on this topic before in my life but as I'm pawley (tm) at the minute typing this with one paw before more rest I thought I would.
The way you treat a person with disabilities can leave those who are not themselves disabled  unsure, some in the disabled community disagree strongly and yes for LG people like me there are other usually unseen factors. Hardly surprising then some take the line of least resistance and say nothing and yet others are at the "Does he take sugar "stage talking straight to the nearest adult near the disabled person completely ignoring them.
A few general pointers:
Talk straight to the person not being afraid to ask how they are. The time to be talking to another is when it is clear the other person isn't understanding you.Offer to write a note of the any main points if it's something the person may need to do.
A person in a wheelchair is a wheelchair user. It's how they get about like you may use your legs and so aren't 'confined'  or 'bound' to it. The limitations in getting about happen generally through the actions of non-disabled people through the barriers they without thinking put up such as making it difficult to enter a building by putting in stairs or using very narrow aisle, not fitting loop hearing systems for the deaf or making prevision for a person to help those with limited sight and so on or even attitudinal ones like thinking nobody disabled comes so why bother considering their needs (maybe that's why they don't!)?
Of course disabled people aren't angels but as you're not, you already know that as they're just like you really!

How much to do for someone or what can I assume?
So-called health professionals, carers and disabled people argue all day about this but I'd sidestep the coffee at the conference chat and just ask if there's anything they'd like some help with (Don't say "Are you alright" cos most feel so uncomfortable about not been seen to cope that they'll say yes even when they do need help).
Assumptions? dangerous game between "Don't patronize me, I'm an adult" from a wheelchair user with an IQ around 100+ and those who for developmental reasons may look all of 50 but are very much like much younger children and as such are extremely vulnerable.
Personally I'd ask for things like ability carrying hot liquids, meals etc accepting a decline unless I know the person well enough not to leaving most other things to them but say for "this activity everybody will be reading or writing-is there anything with this you'd like some help with" because somethings like difficulty in reading aren't obvious and may be unrelated to a physical disability.

LG's and disability ettiquette.
This isn't something you'll find discussed at some 'respectable' conference as most of us who are involved around 'age play' communities have a better take on the link between chronological age and differing mind ages -that we have often two one 'adult' and one younger and oscillate between the two than most including the learned professionals.

My own take on it is it's reasonable to say when it comes to how to deal with illness or injury, the person is feeling it at their child like age and for a few possibly that developmental level too. The absolutes are you cannot breach legal rights over-riding them as developmental issues such as ability to understand a situation are covered thru exemptions under Mental Heath, so you can't take them against their will to a hospital cos' 'they're only a child really' unless it fits under the exemptions. This is because the groan ups use chronological age as the basis for your legal rights.
For 'unwell' childlike works - They're poorly, it's a good idea to remind about what they can do to help manage it, do offer sympathy (back to grazed knees) and so on.


What works for me (the 101 of managing me in RL or online)
Background: My hands got injured at work 16 years ago and they become inflamed at the tendons very easily that results in an inability to use them.  I seldom write with a pen.
I'm unsteady on my feet, have cerebal palsy and dyslexia effecting math, reading,spelling and short-term memory.
This side of me is 'at 12'.
What keeps me going when I'm poorly is my spirit - my LG spirit to be exact - so it's one of the most important things you need to keep up.
It's appropriate to suggest I rest even on occasions insisting I do because it's the child like sense of missing out that can keep me from resting. Something like "Please be a good girl, switch off your computer and rest if you're poorly" is fine.  I won't snap at you. Honest!
Nobody should feel bad for adding the suggestion I change if not already into my LG attire when resting because it will 'turn on' the LG spirit more in me, it helps a lot and I NEED to get better.
There's a difference between what is known at the intellectual level and what is felt building up in to your heart and spirit - the engine that keeps you going emotionally.
In real life hugs work wonders as do laps. Online it's harder but you can express 'hugs' and affirm the power of my LG Spirit to keep me going which oddly enough helps if I'm feeling down. The trouble with down is it has a downward spiral and it helps to talk me back up the top.
You may need to talk me round to see a doctor cos I get scared of different places and can't remember names well and that can put a block on me thinking about it.