Spanking on site

This is being written during a period where I am trying to stay calm, reading comics and the odd sports feature like on Women's Soccer and listening a bit to some music to deal with the visit today of that person, probably a woman for the face to face assessment apart from wondering where one cd ordered last week has ended up.

One thing around comics at least as far as  comics from the past go is as was the era I read them they did reference spanking from time to time as the star of the cartoon strip acted all cranky and that.

This as Britishers would recognize is Minnie the Minx from the Beano from the 1977 edition of the Beano Annual judging by the drawing style, clearly in deep trouble with dad being dealt with the way many of us were at home (and I might add at boarding school).

Now in 2019 a number of sites that permit spanking content have a "No actual or depiction of a minor being spanked is permitted" policy which in theory means I couldn't actually post something I read aged nine, bought for me by responsible adults (my parents) from a publication aimed for children.

Equally as I think a number of us are aware spanking was 'at the movies' when we grew up too so again a straight still of which a number can be found easily online  showing either an actual child being spanked (there's a girl in Elvis's "At Happened at the Worlds Fair" from 1963 who is on film or an adult playing a child role who was and ditto tv like Little House On The Prairie or the classic 1969 film Kes where a group of boys are caned.

The aims of such policies is quite right - to prevent the circulation of images of children being spanked as adult titillation and children being abused to provide same - but something is awry in its application on sites.

Another though relevant consideration to someone like me is I'm in a gymslip - an adult by law but looking like a school child - and I was shown bent over chair but clothed with at the edge a person with say a tawse or slipper would that fall foul on grounds of 'depiction or not if submitted?

See, it's not that black and white is it as these things  are written.

Putting the emphasis on what it belongs

It's been another hot week struggling to cope with the temperatures and the intense brick dust from nextdoor's building work by the local cowboys but there is one issue I have touched on before here I am revisiting.
In an era where social media is seen as the one point all information and contacting having an old school website devoted to mainly non sexual spanking might seem to be a bonus given some folks negative experiences of sites like Fetlife but there has been an issue a few of us have been talking about for a while which resumed last week.
A website for adults who are spanked and those that do you might think has little need to have anything that has to do with spanking and children especially when talking about that in the forums is an absolute no and where no one under 18 can sign up but two pages on the site clearly breach this.
The main page had a long section on it that after much pressure was removed but this a fellow member pointed out leaves a substantial chunk on the other that uses examples on time outs versus spanking referencing children.
One can follow the arguments but it is simply inappropriate to reference it on a site for adults  and should use not discuss its application using examples with children where they could be replaced by some those of us who as adults, are explaining why we find it more helpful.
Such examples would themselves serve as a more useful guide for those looking into this for being the experiences of actual adults  in dealing with their own challenges while making crystal clear the site is not about in any way shape or form spanking of children leaving such discussions to those to whom this is relevant such as parenting sites.
Thankfully that wording has now gone.
In my opinion making these changes is well overdue although I remain surprised the wording went unchallenged at the time.

Past memories and thoughts

This week I've been feeling pretty good overall and I remembered about the first pedigree cat  I had after the dog we had had before went a bit off and tried to turn on Mom in the kitchen with teeth gnashing.
Candy came as part of pair with her brother who was a good deal more active doing things like swiping the record deck arm on the stereo console unit we had with his paw or making a play for the goldfish in the days you could just buy or 'win' them as a kid.
She wasn't too keen on fussed being  typically aloof seal point Siamese but was pretty affectionate with you when she felt in the mood  and they came with us on vacations scratching  ones bare legs having chewed part of the wicker travel basket.
One thing I do want to talk a bit about is inaneness of unsolicited messages  not least as they come from places where actually the answers to most questions can be found because they have been answered in actual posts and usually come from not reading things like my profile which exist for that reason!
Some of those questions are connected with my regressed life not least spanking within it which tend to show the individuals clearly assume one has or wants a regular set spanking as either a bdsm or sexual thing.
The thing with me is there isn't a set number of times because it is discipline based as judged by whoever is in charge of me  at that point and if they themselves feel it is justified subject to my consent to being spanked in the first place. They may even feel an alternative may work better in that individual instance!
Even if they did, it will backed by more guidance because the aim is not just to spank me, but in the longer run transform those attitudes and behaviours which takes me to another area.
Some people like to feel they are 'Caregivers' because they enjoy dominance, controlling  as they spank you but actually although that is a tool, the main criteria is to care and love the individual supporting and guiding them to be the best they can in their everyday lives.
In other words the main defining criteria isn't dominance and control, it's loving guidance.
Before I finish off, this is a week  a year on from the bombing of the Manchester Arena that killed 22 people, one local and injuries mentally and physically a good number in this district, mainly children and teenagers to which a special service was held at St. Annes, Manchester as part of events to mark a day we cannot forget.
We may be continuing on, believing in not allowing terrorists  to dictate our everyday lives but we are hurting.

Reflections on what spanking is for

Well, I got my two new usb memory sticks to replace the defective HP one I mentioned last week which appear to be faster at not just reading but writing too as it took me less time than usual to transfer over the read only HP ones contents to them and then add anything that of necessity had been stored on the laptops own hard drive tidying up as needed.

That's as much techno stuff I really need to say here but for a few days I've been suffering with a migraine which has slowed me down although thankfully I had already written Monday's littles blog and have an idea of the next ones text in mind.

There are a few things I do feel like saying of which one is don't like clumsy mini-modding by people who may be new to a place around rules that it is obvious they don't quite understand more or less implying I had broken it.

The second is almost a constant refrain which is the main reasons why you don't go into detailed talk around childhood spanking on adult only sites are, firstly it's not a site about spanking minors so it's off topic, some people would write accounts of childhood spanking lingering in great detail author clearly enraptured as if we really wished to read it and that sadly such an account could be a thinly disguised depiction of an actual child having (one hell of a) spanking in which instance it might be argued we hosted 'child abuse' material that not only would trigger those of us who are child abuse survivors but also bring unwarranted attention that also has the potential to put members at risk of investigation.

Of itself it has nothing to do with spanking been associated with some as sexualized and the site reason for existence is seeing spanking as a NEED for some adults and it's application as being therapeutic rather than providing sexual gratification although there is a sub forum for those who do have sexual feelings arising from it.

For me spanking has been a therapeutic experience helping me deal with my feelings and at times tailspinning impulses, helping with other areas of my regressed life in helping me deal with my childhood, providing necessary structure and discipline I truly needed.

I have had people now fortunately banned suggest my age regression is not real, that I do not get into a regressed space with those very much child-like thoughts and even words using cuss words on that site.

Like in their world only Age Play is real and even question who I am even though people who look for that will find proof positive I'm Jo not Joe or Rob not to mention plenty of people have had face to face interactions with me and know this.

My regression doesn't need tainting with presumptions of supporting child abuse (which is really sick given some of the stuff I've had in my life) or just being for sexual gratification and that latter in particular really does make me wonder why I joined as I expressly rejected that whole scene and this non sexual approach is what caused me to join.

[Edited 12/7/2017]