One thing many adult
kids struggle with is getting into a little frame of mind especially
if you've been at college or work where you've been dealing not just
with those responsibilities connected with say turning up on time
and doing the task you are expected to but also talking about more
grown up matters such as current affairs or medical science.
Dealing with the former
I'd had to say really caused my little side to come out stamping her
two feet however as you may not be able to leave some of these things
then what can we do to help?
The way in which your
little side can vary but for a good number of us, we need a lead
piece that throws a switch in us.
For some of us it can
be something that has a clear link to our pasts and for me things
like Theo 2nd, my brown teddy bear is one thing that I associate with
comfort, feeling safe and wanted as for all of my life not least the
time I spent in boarding school, teddies always went with me.
And what I got from
them was the same then as now, the ability when the day doesn't going
right, something I just hold and hug closely for minutes on end,
maybe even letting any tears go from whatever was upsetting me.
When
I stand in The Corner with my Teddy and cry, I find I can quickly get
into my "little" headspace. I don't know if it's as easy
for boys to do that, but you should try it. If you are going to be
Spanked, you might want to think long and hard and squeeze your
teddy. You may find the tears glow well before the Wooden Paddle
comes down across your bottom.
I
find hugging or sitting with one on my lap afterward helps me get
feel reassured everything will returned to how it was before I messed
up and I've learnt my lesson.
Another thing I think
is worth trying even is sleeping with it as whenever I felt the need
for a bit of night-time reassurance it really helps me relax, getting
a good nights sleep in.
God knows sometimes
even in 'adult' life you need that restfulness hugging a teddy brings
too.
Another thing that ties
into this is what we generally call plushies, soft furry creatures
sometimes linked to tv and film series that I think many of us like.
For me Hello Kitty is
very big and when working used travelled to and from our office where
she'd be on the desk with a few other bits and pieces simply because
for one thing my work was emotionally stressful and for another I
finding coping with being in that setting difficult so being able to
create a more agreeable child-like space in the back office helped me
to do my job, feeling more relaxed and in control of my emotions.
At home I have loads
set out in the spaces I set around in with a few other play things
that help me moving into a more child-like headspace, doing some
colouring or perhaps playing with toys on the floor.
Whenever I'm away with
little friends I always have a few plushies and dolls with me to
bring a bit of home to wherever I'm stopping.
For some, plushies are
more a collecting thing but to me they're much more than that,
they're furry characters I can weave into stories I then act out on
the floor or the couch, vocalizing for good measure that brings to
life your imagination.
And that's the
imagination of that adult kid let out, having fun.
