Closing the door

I'm a bit annoyed this week when just remarking on the Grok controversy that a.n.other had posted in an "off topic" thread as it applied to adults whose images were manipulated in sexual ways or children depicted sexually you're told they agree with some of your observations, they are concerned about the themes you spoke (very briefly) of and that you're told to keep things sweet and little girl like.

Sorry, but all isn't sweetness and light some of us were abused as children sexually and given the many issues we've had from people seeing us as "debbie downers", liars and much worse expecting to go crawl under a rock and never mention either what happened or that it can being told in effect mentioning something pertinent to our experience of being LG can't even be referenced (we're not talking graphic detail just saying it happens).

We live with the effects every day and in our LG lives, a person who I won't name needed to taken outside by me and told in no uncertain terms just going behind you and grabbing  you is deeply traumatic and they were to never, ever do it again at a meet up just underscores and and wishing away the idea some of us like sadly some actually children are living with this grates.

Shutting people out was a textbook emotional response for me for many many years and I guess it can be justified as a means of preventing others actions from hurting your inner feelings.

It seems a lot easier than dealing with their drama or give them another chance to hurt you even more. I do that sometimes when I get tired of the drama or I know they are gonna say something hurtful I just cut off the relationship cold and walk away. 

 
The trouble was it drifted into shutting people out to prevent any possible hurt learning to deal with relationships.

I've had it with being silenced.

Getting by

I saw this manga drawing a few days ago and liked it a lot although I'd of written the first speech bubble as "I started out as a guy" had I been any good at drawing because our girl is showing sensitivity to how she is perceived in her new role among the other girls.

I think one of most important things is having respect for your inner girl, that's to say you don't put her in crass or otherwise crude situations if you wish to hold your own in the company of those born and raised as girls from the outset.

Those of us who started out as guys can't just demand the right to accepted and be granted it; we may have to earn our right to be wear our uniforms as part of being regarded as the girls we truly feel.

It's also important to understand females have spent ages fighting discrimination in the home, in school and in work.

Girls of our sort arguably need to both accept and embrace that same struggle fighting with our genetic sisters  for equal treatment in the workplace and supporting those who even in today's world get a bullet in the head for supporting girls education as fundamental human right.

If you can, learn about those struggles and support our genetic sisters in practical ways.
The path to our acceptance isn't easy but we need to take responsibility for making it as smooth as possible.

The 2025 Dorm review

Nearly the end of year when I got around to finally typing up this blog entry which isn't tardiness on my part but with dealing with a few health emergencies of the Grump kind across the last week taking up chunks of my time I'd sooner of spent on blogging and other things as a Little.

Blog has been a bit different over the last few years in part due to issues like that, previously Mom's well-being current the Grumps with the usual lack of support from siblings like one who when told he'd not been well just went rambling on and on about his upcoming writs/hand operation which while life changing isn't life threatening like some of Grumps issues.

Indeed one couldn't be bothered to even say "I'm sorry to hear you've been unwell" or "Is there anything I can do to help?".

The other issues affect the blog have been around reduced to time for school day re-runs although I was able to go to one early in the year where for flunking the subject tests I was caned in front of the class which did bring a few points around how teachers did things back in day into light. 

Not that there's anything wrong with spanking me when I could of done something better and opted not to or anything like that.

Long stays were limited cos of demand for spaces and the problems of finding affordable bigger venues but our stay in Devon was memorable even if it seemed many of us sustained injuries with the staircases and despite being careful I went flying landing on the fall with force involving a slippy mat.

I've typed a bit around my own feelings and emotions this year as I feel that's been of value explaining a it more around my life and how things from the past influence the present which doesn't easily fit the format of the other blogs.

Following issues around Similar Worlds took me away from that site it's been helpful.

How 2026 pans out I have no idea but we'll ride it anyhow. 

A word from The Bear

Hewwo. I'm Theodore the IInd I am. I came into Joanne's life today this magical day called Christmas to add a bit of sparkle in

to her life as she just loves teddies bears giving the most loveliest hug to us bears.
I was at a bit of a loose end at the bear home when she told a woman she really wanted me for Christmas and you know what? Not once did she peep at me until today! 

I'm hoping she'll have some great adventures with me.

Regards Theodore II

Christmas pause 2025

 The pause comes earlier to this blog as we prepare for Christmas with quite a bit to do when it comes to visits, shopping and dealing with a few medical issues with dad.

Wishing all a Very Happy Christmas  and all the best for 2026.

 

The nom time of the year

Yes it's getting to that time of the year and guess what? In all this grump messed up craziness I got one!

With the help of the Teddy Bears, I can count down the days toward Christmas while noming on small squares of milk chocolate.

Don't ask what other folks may make of it but if I feel the need to have an Advent Calendar then I do and other peoples opinions don't come into it.

In other news, our community Christmas Tree is up, decorated, fully illuminated and carol singing whereas the Council tree is much smaller but has four penguins by it.

I don't know what penguins have to do with Christmas but still.. 

1,300th post

Do you know something? This happens to be1300th post here at The Dorm which is quite a milestone (not a Millstone) in its history.

 Indeed it almost never really got started between pressures from my career and having an early version of a blogging tool that was used for more mainstream "big" posts  and if you really want to know the truth, actually I'd of much sooner just had this one cos it's everything about me.

When I say everything, I mean starting with having this very much childlike (but not childish) little girl side that has never gone away , enjoying the simpler things of life like dolls, teddies, engaging in children's games and interests.

It's taken me to different places, meeting some remarkable people who share the same side mixed in with their more groan up side all trying to balance both sides of themselves and sometimes with having partners too.

It's also the only blog that deals with an important side of my life quite openly, that I am transgendered and how that taps into issues from my own childhood, having an inner girl child and has lead to me presenting as that female both at home and increasingly in the presence of others, something that has helped me an awful lot.

Our community, the alg community, has supported in its own way, me in all of this.
In this blog I do talk from time to time about things such as music, books and anime which have been great interests of mine for a while but in a different way, more from how they tie into my past and the child within me which sometimes by accident has occurred elsewhere as ultimately I can only be me wherever I may post.

To mark the occasion of this 1,300th post we've taken a break as I was editing iD tags for some music files that were messed up before loading in the micro sd card. We all know that stuff often needs sorting.

The countdown before CatMas continues next week.