Letting out your emotions

One thing many adult kids struggle with is getting into a little frame of mind especially if you've been at college or work where you've been dealing not just with those responsibilities connected with say turning up on time and doing the task you are expected to but also talking about more grown up matters such as current affairs or medical science.

Dealing with the former I'd had to say really caused my little side to come out stamping her two feet however as you may not be able to leave some of these things then what can we do to help?

The way in which your little side can vary but for a good number of us, we need a lead piece that throws a switch in us.

For some of us it can be something that has a clear link to our pasts and for me things like Theo 2nd, my brown teddy bear is one thing that I associate with comfort, feeling safe and wanted as for all of my life not least the time I spent in boarding school, teddies always went with me.

And what I got from them was the same then as now, the ability when the day doesn't going right, something I just hold and hug closely for minutes on end, maybe even letting any tears go from whatever was upsetting me.

When I stand in The Corner with my Teddy and cry, I find I can quickly get into my "little" headspace. I don't know if it's as easy for boys to do that, but you should try it. If you are going to be Spanked, you might want to think long and hard and squeeze your teddy. You may find the tears glow well before the Wooden Paddle comes down across your bottom.

I find hugging or sitting with one on my lap afterward helps me get feel reassured everything will returned to how it was before I messed up and I've learnt my lesson.

Another thing I think is worth trying even is sleeping with it as whenever I felt the need for a bit of night-time reassurance it really helps me relax, getting a good nights sleep in.

God knows sometimes even in 'adult' life you need that restfulness hugging a teddy brings too.

Another thing that ties into this is what we generally call plushies, soft furry creatures sometimes linked to tv and film series that I think many of us like.

For me Hello Kitty is very big and when working used travelled to and from our office where she'd be on the desk with a few other bits and pieces simply because for one thing my work was emotionally stressful and for another I finding coping with being in that setting difficult so being able to create a more agreeable child-like space in the back office helped me to do my job, feeling more relaxed and in control of my emotions.

At home I have loads set out in the spaces I set around in with a few other play things that help me moving into a more child-like headspace, doing some colouring or perhaps playing with toys on the floor.

Whenever I'm away with little friends I always have a few plushies and dolls with me to bring a bit of home to wherever I'm stopping.

For some, plushies are more a collecting thing but to me they're much more than that, they're furry characters I can weave into stories I then act out on the floor or the couch, vocalizing for good measure that brings to life your imagination.

And that's the imagination of that adult kid let out, having fun.

Hello and goodnight from me

Hi people.
First things first, we've a number of new visitors to this blog according to the numbers thing Google provide, and if that's you please read the About and if you wish, add a comment to the Hellos sections you click on from the top of the blog as they'll explain what this blog is really about and why I was so pleased Samantha amongst others publicly recognized the value of it.
I also wish to welcome PowderKid ,teenb101,Pickachu, tinkerbell and Noodle to my home of schoolgirlish innocence as well as Mary who returned to GT this week.
People at  Adisc and GT may have noticed something, namely my avatar yes the one form the same series as the delightful image I'm claiming this week, looks well, sharper, because when I edited it last time to fit the square 150x150pxavatar size restrictions at both sites, somehow the online resizer made it very grainy something Noodle rightly brought to my attention so I redid the resizing.
Last week I talked about sleep having lost several spoons to staying awake for longer than is good  for me and sleep is something that has been mentioned before as in Little Modes Sleep both at GT and there's a current thread running on it at Adisc plus there's my "Downsized Sleep" entry on here about talking about how and what I got from throwing the groan up stuff out of it!
Anyway peoples you'll recall I'd converted sleep into a going to sleep and waking up  as a adult little girl experience with age appropriate bedlinen, teddy bears, posters, pretty much the works really and it was wonderful.
Well, how well do you find actually switching off, closing your eyes and going to sleep? If you're like most of us maybe a bit iffy even if we turn off the Tv for a bit before getting into bed. But there's something, you might remember it, that used to work pretty well for you when you were younger and I'm suggesting you try it.
Recently faced with this, I recalled this reassuring routine of either being read a short story or maybe of listening to soothing songs -Lullabies- that from being in bed get you into a relaxed sleepy frame of mind from my own childhood.
It happens that Amazon has a pretty good recording of Lullabies in contemporary arrangements in stock that is available as an inexpensive download as well as a cd and I bought it.
Lullabies-the rainbow collection which I'm sure is available on Amazon in the States and Canada too.
It runs for about 35 minutes which is just long enough for you to start to drift off clutching your teddy and it does really help having adopted this into my sleep routine packed with favourite songs and rhymes from the past.
Until the next time and IK chat.
 Hugs Jo.

Girlifying a Jo

Much of the talk on this blog has been around the notion of presentation as a school girl in her uniform, that's only a part of the actual presentation of a school age child and so in my regression it ought to include a more dressy feminine side even if I need to helped to dress.
This sort, not to frilly but clearly feminine very much would fit the bill  with attention to socks, clip on earings and a headband.

Get yer kit on

In my regressing I'm resembling that child so here's a story around that.
There is something I find most agreeable about having to wear a pleated PE skirt with matching navy blue gym knickers for games or exercise having been to a co-ed boarding school as well as wearing that combination since.

I love the freedom of movement over shorts, the sheer femininity while preserving some modesty are overwhelming plus they're more enjoyable during the summer months.

Feeling the changed situation

A large chunk of the total regression package has to involve NOT doing anything adult that cannot possible be helped, leaving anything that can very much at the door.

This means that outside of any studying, the resumption of adult authority over me as their charge, my free time would be spend in a very child-like way playing childhood games like jump rope while dressed as a little girl.

Online colouring

Just while checking this photo program out, I went over to a colouring book site site that links to online colouring books where you can can  click onto virtual paint and colour in.

 It's listed on the favourite sites page on this blog.

Here's one I did earlier:

As you can see the tools are well laid out so you just click to load your brush (cursor arrow), move to where you want and click to paint that part.

It's also the first post entirely made from the laptop as I've had to learn where everything is stored!

Age regression and spanking

As a topic this sometimes divides people in a way that goes beyond the arguments that rage over the subject of spanking in connection with actual biological age children.

To me I don't age play because I am looking for a spanking and I don't look at spanking  because I want to be involved in age play because the big thing both have in common is allowing my emotionally real inner kid out and letting her play is a part of my healing for what I can only truthfully describe as a troubled upbringing that has lead to a troubled life.

The thing by being little me is it allows me to do the things I want to do rather than masking in attempt to portray and adult albeit one who can't act that role right but because I have the vulnerabilities you would associate with an actual child  and some of negative behaviour patterns that a troubled child would exhibit but which in an adult form people struggle to handle.

In essence one important thing I'm not so much wanting but needing from this experience is age play guardians or parents who will guide and raise me more like the Inner Child  in adult wrapping I am but using a age play setting so I am in effect their little girl with all the emotional and psychological import that goes with it.

Part of this healing for me is for me to learn what are acceptable standards of behaviour and attitude to the point I can be reasonably relied to carry them out and to put a stop for me on those that are not only only set me back.

Whatever the current arguments and points of view are, the era in which I was brought up in was one where spanking was an everyday fact of life for a child that we expected and in the context of  recreating that past, my little side benefits from restoration of the certainties she saw as part of adult authorities care and protection of her even from her own mistakes.

Spanking for me is part of that healing process where by I relearn by the standards of the time those behaviours and attitudes I am to live by and am subject to the same rituals that would see my bottom getting spanked live every other child back then and to which I associate with the loving protection and nuture the adults that were good to me in childhood delivered whenever I needed it.

 The heat from your spanking stays in your gym knickers for ages so it's hardly surprising you feel like rubbing them.

It just feels right to me and that is why in age regression and in any kind of Caregiver or Guardian setting my Inner Kid wants and needs to be spanked (and not for any sexual reason) as part of her discipline.